Re: Hope needs a kick in the butt

On Mar 11, 7:06=A0am, "Cindi" <.> wrote:

> There are others also. =A0Never once did anyone give any of them false
> hope that they were not going to die. =A0The kindest thing to do is
> accept it and help them through it any way you can. =A0Amazingly enough,
> it's usually the people left behind that have the most trouble. =A0The
> one who's dying has pretty much accepted it and has made peace with
> it. =A0That's been my experience anyway.
>
> Bonbon



I don't always appreciate nor agree with her when Bonbon gets preachy
on her soapbox, but I actually agree with her this time. It's my firm
belief that Bo started to flatline yesterday not just because of his
ailment, but because he was trying so hard to keep Hope calm and
placid. The patient isn't supposed to have to work on overload to ease
the mind of the one standing vigil. That's only going to make his
condition worse. I never realized this until somebody I was close to
got into a s****ts accident back in the 90s where their entire
cheekbone on the right side was shattered and had to be
reconstructed.


He had eight brothers and sisters who *all* lived locally in the area
and if had it in me to make a do***entary out of that incident, it
would have indeed been very interesting. People all reacted quite
differently and his youngest brother was a total Hope Williams Brady.
*ALL* he did night and day was talk about how the s****ts player (very
large and hefty guy) who accidentally helped to cause the accident had
not yet come to the hospital to visit nor sent a card or made a phone
call. It made the whole recovery process *SO* much worse and his
girlfriend had to find countless ways to get him to either LEAVE the
hospital altogether or spend less time in the room.


Hope is like that. She's a spoiled brat and it is storylines like this
one that help remind me of it. She stands there and places all of her
fear on a tray and just hands it over to him in a buffet style heaping
slop helping. If she cannot hold it together she should not BE there
in the first place. Honestly, would Pops Brady if he were still around
or her own fatehr Doug be *proud* of her for adding undue stress to an
already aggrivated situation? When Bo tried to tell her in the most
gentle way possible as she told him not to "leave her" (a.k.a. not to
die) over this, that he HAS NO CONTROL over the situation but wishes
that he did, for a split second she had a little look across her face
and a reality check, but then she slipped back into Control Freak mode
and I just about crapped myself with pissed-offed-ness.


Kayla is dealing with this in a much more respectable manner and it's
not because she's his sister instead of his wife, it's because she's a
realist and not some idealistic little "Me, Me, Me" selfishly spoiled
brat. Hope even told Kayla that she doesn't want to or know how she
can go on living if he dies. HOW on earth could she say that with new
baby Ciara in tow and how is Shawn D. supposed to feel after his
mother makes such a comment?



S*Babykins