On Apr 8, 11:04=A0am, "JJ" <nom...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> A bit defensive, eh? You are the one running hot and cold. Is that how
you=
r
> mother treated you? Compliment you on one hand and slap you down with
the
> other?
> JJ
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What's so very shameful about being hit and who CARES who it's by,
really, once you're a grown adult, you think it over and you get right
down to it? The other person should be ashamed, not the recipient. It
ought to make you a stronger person, really. I was never hit at home
as a child, but I know *PLENTY* of kids who were, some of them
mercilessly and by people they were not even related to by blood. Most
of them are the most absolutely God Damned successful people that I
know today. It helped them to negotiate as adults and to know when to
strike back and when to hold it in, especially in important board room
and business situations. It's amazing to hear what certain people have
been through. It teaches you to feel lucky for what you have (or had),
yet it also (to me at least) makes you wonder "What would I have
done?"... I'd probably be a multi billionaire today if I were treated
*AS A CHILD* like some other truly UNFORTUNATE (at the time) people
were. Certain people have had to overcome adversity that is so raw
it's amazing to know they're still alive, let alone successful.
I've NEVER witnessed child abuse destroy a person *LATER* on in life,
in other words, like you're accusing Jodie of. I have only witnessed
teenagers and adults destroy THEMSELVES and use past abuse as a
CRUTCH, which AFAIC, is just as pathetic as the initial abuse itself.
The adults that many of us are TODAY is due in part to what many of us
have OVERCOME, truthfully. I always knew, even when I was little, that
if someone tries to wreck or ruin you (emotionally or physically) it
says sooooo much more about them than it does about you. The best and
most MIRACULOUS relationships of all often times blossom out of a
situation where two people did not FULLY UNDERSTAND or RESPECT each
other and through some sort of debacle and emotional disarray they
eventually come to an understanding and learn to LIKE or even love one
another. It's called FORGIVENESS and once you learn the power of it,
NOTHING anyone EVER says or TRIES TO DO to hurt you really even
matters very much at the END of the day because you know they're
human, you ACCEPT that people mess up and you learn to not let it
OVERSHADOW the rest of your days...you get beyond it. Positive or
negative, if they REVEALED that little part of them that is VULNERABLE
to you, even in the most harrowing of ways, it's truly a gift because
in doing so, they inadvertently taught you a MULTITUDE of things about
YOURSELF and your own strength.
So, in conclusion, if you think that shoving Jodie around about her
mom and whatever kind of childhood that you have *FABRICATED* deep in
the far walls of your mind that she had is going to beat her down or
make her weaker, you need to remind yourself of something. She's not
twelve anymore and this is not a playground. She's quite likely dealt
with WORSE than you and she's come out the WINNER, so you're no
challenge, really. You're rather a mere AFTER THOUGHT instead...
S*Babykins
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