On 2008-03-16 10:30:21 -0400, "Laura M. Young" <bridgeplayer60@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
said:
> On 3/15/08 8:11 PM,"Alane" <alanesue@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>
>> Would it even be considered cheating? Hadn't they broken things off
>> at that point?
>>
>> Alane
>
> Many of us, including me, don't consider it "cheating" after she'd
turned
> down his marriage proposal and run away, but some people believe there
is a
> specific period of time you have to stay celibate after a breakup to
make
> sure you are really broken up before you are allowed to start
dating/having
> *** again.
Kate said she thought it was cheating, but she also seemed pretty much
OK with it. So my point is that at east she's not a hypocrite about it.
I had a friend years ago whose husband would make a point of "breaking
up" with her every year or so, immediately go out and have a hot 'n
heavy fling/affair/whatever with whatever hot young thing had just
caught his eye, and when he'd had sufficient extramarital ***, come
back home. He'd claim he wasn't cheating because they were broken up
when he had his fling. Yet he'd do the same thing over and over --
until my friend got sick of it and had all the locks changed during one
of his marital hiatuses. He was dumbfounded -- it wasn't CHEATING, was
it? After all, they were separated at the time. But she'd gotten sick
of getting separated every time he was interested in someone else.
And that's rather how I see Sonny and his behavior and certain other
characters. If you're constantly getting separated and impregnating
(or being impregnated by) other people, you're kind of missing the
point of marriage. If you're married -- or wanting to be -- it ought
to be a little more difficult to get free of the relation****p to f**k
someone else. And if your relation****p is special, it should take more
than a few minutes or hours or even a few days before you're in bed
with someone else.
Ruby, hopelessly middle-class, midwestern and middle-aged.
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