On Apr 6, 10:33=EF=BF=BDpm, Ruby Vee <rubyv...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> On 2008-04-06 21:27:30 -0400, "Laura M. Young" <bridgeplaye...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
sa=
id:
>
> >> Yet even Kate seems as if she's going to let it pass.
>
> > Kate isn't his parent! =EF=BF=BDShe's not anything except the innocent
v=
ictim who
> > nearly got killed because the mini-mobster was running around with a
gun=
> > trying to be like his dad.
>
> Kate was the one saying to Sonny that she'd made mistakes in the past,
> so it wouldn't be right for her to hold Michael responsible for his
> "mistake." =EF=BF=BDThe "mistake" was in dropping the gun (the one he
shou=
ldn't
> have had in the first place) while trying to (illegally) dispose of it
> so that it (unintentionally) fired and (totally by accident) hit
> someone. =EF=BF=BDBut running off leaving her bleeding was a deliberate
ch=
oice
> -- and one that both Sonny and Kate should be taking Michael to task
> for.
>
> > =EF=BF=BDAnd it was just a couple weeks ago that people
> > in here were screaming in protest at the suggestion that Jax, who IS
the=
> > kid's stepfather, should dare to involve himself in the parenting
proces=
s
> > since he has no right because his mother did such a lousy job with him
a=
nd
> > Jerry. =EF=BF=BDI can just see what people would say about how
hypocriti=
cal Kate is
> > for involving herself in correcting Michael for leaving her bleeding
to
> > death on the sidewalk, being as how she got community service for
dingin=
g a
> > couple of cars and leaving those scenes!
>
> As a step-parent, I've learned that the kid's parents get to make those
> decisions and you get no say. =EF=BF=BDUnless you happen to be the
parent =
on
> hand when the kid does something truly egregious and correct him/her on
> the spot. =EF=BF=BDThen you STILL have to defend your decision and your
> rationale for making it.
>
> As a step-parent, Jax is in a very tough position. =EF=BF=BDBut he still
h=
as to
> respect the biological parents and their decisions.
>
> And as for Kate -- hit and run isn't a joke. =EF=BF=BDThe rationale she
us=
ed
> for not stopping ("I was in a hurry, and besides I have handbags worth
> more than that car") was especially offensive to me. =EF=BF=BDPeople
whose=
cars
> are worth less than her handbags NEED those cars to get to work, to the
> grocery store, to take their kids to school and likely don't have the
> spare cash to repair them because some rich snob couldn't be bothered
> to either pay attention to her driving or to take the time to take
> responsibility for her damage.
>
> > Yup, you'd think...except you can't fault Jax. =EF=BF=BD Again, he's
onl=
y the
> > step-parent who has been reminded of that multiple times by both Carly
a=
nd
> > Sonny that he needs to keep his mouth shut about disciplining the kids
> > unless he is agreeing with them.
>
> Which is a pretty realistic view of step-parenting. =EF=BF=BDAlthough
sinc=
e
> Kate is such a special friend of his, you'd think he'd have a vested
> interest in Michael apologizing to her!
>
>
>
> > Of course, we're about to have another major rift between these two
sinc=
e
> > Carly's already on the warpath since Sonny dared to take his son
without=
> > clearing it with Carly, Does she not remember her pulling the reverse
st=
unt
> > on him, by just dumping the kids off at his house without even telling
h=
im
> > they were coming, or finding out if he was even going to be home,
while =
she
> > flitted off out of town somewhere? And, now that Michael's been shot,
we=
're
> > going to hear again about how it is Sonny's fault, which is ironic
becau=
se
> > he appears (on the surface, at least) to be trying very =EF=BF=BDhard
to=
become just
> > a coffee im****ter.
>
> If the kid is grounded, he ought to be GROUNDED. =EF=BF=BDSeems like a
pre=
tty
> mild punishment for buying an illegal gun and being responsible for
> shooting someone, whether intentionally or not. =EF=BF=BDSeems like a
REAL=
LY
> mild punishment for going off and leaving her bleeding.
>
> Michael being shot IS in a lot of ways, Sonny's fault. =EF=BF=BDThe kid
is=
13
> -- Sonny could have been trying very hard to become just a coffee
> im****ter since he agreed to become the kid's father.
>
> Ruby
You didn't say whether your stepchildren live with you. Would that
make a difference? Seems that it should. If a stepchild is in your
home 24/7, it seems that you should have an almost equal say with the
bio parents as to parenting, especially if the stepchild is
endangering lives. I think being a step-parent to a teenager must be
one of the hardest job in the world! It would take the patience of a
saint to just stand by and watch when things go badly. More power to
you, Ruby!
PJ
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