"El Puerco" (arriba@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
) writes:
> "bf" <bfordyce@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
> news:1152896677.251345.313580@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>
>> El Puerco wrote:
>>> "bf" <bfordyce@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
>>> news:1152798083.054380.310010@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>> > I could see the parallel to reality if Clark was a "Bad boy", but
>>> > there's no way Smallville Clark would be attractive to any girl.
>>>
>>> The following is almost the definition of a "bad boy:"
>>>
>>> > The
>>> > moping, self pity, wimpy, lying act would get old very quick with
>>> > women.
>>>
>>> Surprisingly enough, it doesn't. I've been doing all that for decades
>>> and
>>> have yet to be dumped (yelled at, yes).
>>
>> Dude, I know some girls will put up with lying and the emotional abuse,
>> but I think what would scare women away is Clark's constant need for
>> consoling. Clark is emotionally about 5 years old. Always depressed
>> and whiney. Not to mention that Clark has no interest whatsoever in ***
>> or even kissing. That is definitely not a "bad boy" trait LOL.
>
> What men think is a "bad boy" and what a woman thinks is a "bad boy" are
two
> different things. Men think it's a ***ually aggressive asshole jerk but
> women aren't typically attracted to that "bad boy" to nearly the degree
they
> are attracted to the James Dean-ish "bad boy" (you're tearing me
apart!).
> Ya know, the dude who's emotionally about 5 years old. :-)
>
>
I think men make the mistake of thinking that women want the "bad boy".
I suspect it's more like they want the "dating/seductive capable", which
may too often be in the same package as the bad guy. In other words,
they aren't interested in being abused by a man, but those men have
somehow magically gained the ability to approach women, and they
respond to that. Or maybe such men just aren't put off by rejection,
so they can go through a whole string of women being pretty blatant
until the hit one that responds.
So the "nice guys" think it's awful that women are attracted to "bad
boys" when it's simply that they aren't approaching the women, and
approaching them with skill, so the women end up with the "bad boys"
rather than men who will treat them right. In effect, "being nice" means
that they will hesitate to approach women, but that is exactly what's
needed.
Michael
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