"Michael Black" <et472@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> "El Puerco" (arriba@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
) writes:
>> "bf" <bfordyce@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
>> news:1152896677.251345.313580@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>>
>>> El Puerco wrote:
>>>> "bf" <bfordyce@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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>>>> > I could see the parallel to reality if Clark was a "Bad boy", but
>>>> > there's no way Smallville Clark would be attractive to any girl.
>>>>
>>>> The following is almost the definition of a "bad boy:"
>>>>
>>>> > The
>>>> > moping, self pity, wimpy, lying act would get old very quick with
>>>> > women.
>>>>
>>>> Surprisingly enough, it doesn't. I've been doing all that for
decades
>>>> and
>>>> have yet to be dumped (yelled at, yes).
>>>
>>> Dude, I know some girls will put up with lying and the emotional
abuse,
>>> but I think what would scare women away is Clark's constant need for
>>> consoling. Clark is emotionally about 5 years old. Always depressed
>>> and whiney. Not to mention that Clark has no interest whatsoever in
***
>>> or even kissing. That is definitely not a "bad boy" trait LOL.
>>
>> What men think is a "bad boy" and what a woman thinks is a "bad boy"
are
>> two
>> different things. Men think it's a ***ually aggressive asshole jerk
but
>> women aren't typically attracted to that "bad boy" to nearly the degree
>> they
>> are attracted to the James Dean-ish "bad boy" (you're tearing me
apart!).
>> Ya know, the dude who's emotionally about 5 years old. :-)
>>
>>
>
> I think men make the mistake of thinking that women want the "bad boy".
> I suspect it's more like they want the "dating/seductive capable", which
> may too often be in the same package as the bad guy. In other words,
> they aren't interested in being abused by a man, but those men have
> somehow magically gained the ability to approach women, and they
> respond to that. Or maybe such men just aren't put off by rejection,
> so they can go through a whole string of women being pretty blatant
> until the hit one that responds.
>
> So the "nice guys" think it's awful that women are attracted to "bad
> boys" when it's simply that they aren't approaching the women, and
> approaching them with skill, so the women end up with the "bad boys"
> rather than men who will treat them right. In effect, "being nice"
means
> that they will hesitate to approach women, but that is exactly what's
> needed.
Applying the anthropic principle to dating? I like it!
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